Take Comfort!

COMFORT  IS  whatever makes you feel more at ease.Comfort is a hot -water bottle, a bowl of soup, teddy bears, hugs and cuddles, a blanket, music, a soothing drink.You can even suck your thumb if it reassures and comforts you!At times every adult has a hurt and fearful, lost lonely child inside.

Hope!

HOPE   EMBODIES  A  HEALTHY  APPORACH   TO LIFE. 

If you have hope you can allow for people and situations to change.You suspend judgement and expectation.In the midst of what feels like hopelessness you dare to imagine an improvement.Hope is life giving and affirming.It lifts finality away.

This , too, will pass!

MAKE  THIS  YOUR  MANTRA, prayer , song  or affirmation.Repeat it, write it, pray it, remember it, visualise it.Know that your circumstances change, and that what is unbearable now might  be the making of you.Bless the situation for whatever it has to teach you about life.Learn graciously.

It takes two!

IN ANY SITUATION OF STRESS  or  conflict, remember it takes two.There are two protagonists, two sides of an argument, two sets of responsibilities and at least two outcomes.Look at it way you have half the load,half the answer, and you bear responsibility for half the blame and half the outcome.You need only  take care of your half!

Name your Emotion!

DISCOVER WHAT'S BEHIND  ........................your present  feeling.Draw an emotional map.Behind anger lies hurt, behind hurt lies an expectation, behind the expectation lies a belief. behind the belief there is an origin.Trace your belief back to its origin.Decide whether you want to change your belief.Then you can change your emotion.

Put Your hands in the earth!

BY  DOING  THIS  Literally  become earthed.Gardeners will tell you of the peace and enjoy they find digging amongst living, growing things.The earth gives you a sense of proportion; it helps you to accept what is.Everything has a pattern, a rhythm and a flow.Get in touch with these things.

Face the facts!

DON'T  EMBROIDER,deny ,procrastinate or project.Face up to yourself, be honest and realise the part you've played in getting yourself into the difficult situation you're now in.Be brave.If you can admit your part then you can mentally throw off everything else that doesn't belong to you.