Rehearsal!

WHEN A SITUATION BACKFIRES..............................you're often determined to act differently the next time.But determination will desert you in the pressure and emotion of the occasion if you haven't done some homework.Visualise yourself in the situation and act it out as if you were there.Use your five senses to bring your action alive.Practice will hasten a new pattern and improve your chances of success.

Find a trigger!

FIND YOUR OWN HAPPINESS TRIGGER.It may be the words of a song, a saying, a scene.In order for the trigger to work you need to be able to imagine it strongly.See it, feel it.Practise when you don't need to use it.The more you quickly your trigger will activate.

Replace pain with no pain!

IF YOU FIND YOURSELF .........................................................wanting to hurt someone in the same way they have hurt you, think again.
Replicating pain duplicates it.What you really seek is no pain.Stay true to your aim.As you give love more, you'll also receive more.Give love unconditionally without waiting for its immediate return.

Recognise your Limitations!

ATTEMPT ONLY WHAT IS POSSIBLE FOR YOU.Know your own capabilities, strengths and endurance.Don't try to do more out of guilt or fear or comparison.No one else can inform you about your limitations as well as yourself.So listen without judgement.

Work backwards!

RATHER THEN PROJECTING .....................your present difficult situation into the future, take your situation to its extreme and then work backwards to the present.Look at your particular circumstances. Ask yourself: ' what's the very worst that can happen?Think about what you'd do if it happened.Then when you take yourself back to the present it will be easier to face.

It could be Worse!

WHEN  YOU 'RE  DOWN, try jolting yourself out of the depths by imagining a situation worse than your own.Visualise with all your senses.Empathise.Return to your own situation.Now that you've established a sense of proportion you'll have a new outlook.You'll see that your problem is manageable.

A mistake is a gift!

DON' T  BE  TOO  PROUD  to admit when you've been wrong.A mistakes offers you an unparalleled chance to have another go, to reflect on what has been done and to do things differently next time.Your challenge is to be humble enough to see your mistake.Then you can do something about it.