The Power of Meditation!

Last month, I read a study showing that just eight weeks of daily meditation leads to increased grey matter densities in areas of the brain associated with memory, sense of self, empathy, and stress-regulation. I shared this with some friends, and we immediately formed a meditation group, committed to meditating for eight weeks straight in order to duplicate the results.

In just one day of meditation I saw improvements, but I feared writing about them due to possible placebo effects. But now, I’m becoming more and more confident in the power of meditation. I’m four weeks into the program, and here’s what I’ve noticed:

1. I’ve obliterated arbitrary rules from my life:-
I used to fall into routines, such as needing to sleep at a certain hour or eating meals at a certain time. Meditation has made me appreciate the pacing and natural flow of my emotions and thoughts, and I’ve come to believe that we go through multi-day cycles of needing attention to one dimension of our life more than others. My new state of mind reminds me of a talk at Stanford, where a businesswoman said, “Forget trying to achieve balance. Living life is more of a real-time readiness to pivot as your life demands. If you haven’t been spending enough time with your kids, go home. If you haven’t been spending enough time at work, stay longer. There is no perfect set amount or schedule that will keep you happy all the time.”

2. The time I spend worrying about small personal problems has shrunk from one week to one day:-
Minor negative events, like seeing my bank account lower than expected or noticing that a relationship hasn’t progressed like I’ve wanted it to, used to bog me down for whole weeks. I’d see my Mint.com account balance summary on Sunday, then fret about my financial situation Monday through Wednesday, then Thursday through Friday analyze the heck out of my responses, and on Saturday, maybe come up with a plan to remedy the situation or realize I got over-worked for no reason. Now, with daily meditation, I have an opportunity every day to reset. Meditation separates you so far from your present struggles that you are hit with a reminder of Life Before The Worry, which then reminds you that your life goes on just fine without you being so focused on a singular issue.

3. As a consequence of having only daylong issues, I feel like I’m better equipped to live out the motto “Carpe Diem.” Having the security that comes from believing that all the crap that’s bothering you today, won’t bother you tomorrow, is liberating, and frees you up to smell the roses. The past four weeks have been some of the most fun times of my life. I’ve been going out a lot more, but oddly enough, also working harder and more passionately.

4. Larger personal problems, while not instantly solved by mindfulness, have been transformed into more manageable games and projects.
For example, I’ve had some long-standing personal problems when it comes to relationships, and while I don’t think these have been solved, I feel more centered in my approach to them. I feel like meditation puts me at the top of a mountain so I can see all my thoughts below, rather than being consumed by the pedestrian hubbub at ground level. Whereas before, I approached my relationship issues from only a couple discrete perspectives (i.e. “I need to work on commitment issues” or “I need to work on self-confidence”), I approach them now from a continuous synthesis of maybe hundreds of perspectives, like little dots forming a Pointillist painting.

5. The new pictures formed of my personal problems include newfound, significant amounts of self-acceptance. You know the old adage, “To a hammer, everything looks like a nail.” Well, I’m a problem-solver, and so everything tends to look like a problem that I can solve with just the sheer will of my introspection. Meditation, by distancing me from my problems, has turned everything from nails into more unique and nuanced objects. I now see many alternatives to problem solving, including letting go, coping, seeking support, relaxing, or simply embracing my flaws.

6. I waste less time on mind-rotting activities, like surfing reddit:-
Meditation reminds me every day of what a sane, mindful mind feels like. By having that as a daily reference, I can more clearly see how “insane” a lot of my former activities were. I noticed this right after my first meditation session. I was about to go to reddit, and then I cringed at the thought of flooding my mind with random information highs and funny pictures. After abandoning reddit, I was about to check out news sites, including the Drudge Report and the Huffington Post, and again, I cringed. The thought of those large, bold headlines hitting me with inflammatory content seemed insane. I’ve now come to believe that meditation is one of the best responses to modern information overload. I keep reminding myself of this quote from David Foster Wallace, “There are four trillion bits coming at you, 99% of them are shit, and it’s too much work to do triage to decide. So it’s very clear, very soon there’s gonna be an economic niche opening up for gatekeepers… Because otherwise we’re gonna spend 95% of our time body-surfing through shit.” Why can’t that gatekeeper be you?

7. I feel more emotionally intelligent, and I’m able to catch myself more quickly in social situations:-
Meditation sort of puts your ear to the ground, and lets you hear the low-volume murmurs that are going on inside you. Once you have a daily reminder of their existence, it’s hard not to hear them during the rest of the day. For example, I listen better to others now, because when I’m going off on some rant, I can hear a little voice inside warning me about my ego, and I’m able to dial myself down. Whereas before, I’d usually be consumed by the volume of my own speech or the emotional bursts that come from self-expression.

8. I feel mentally and physically sharper:-
Reducing anxiety and stress removes a major energy drain from your life. I feel like there are all these endorphins swirling around me that I didn’t have before, and as a result I feel healthier and more alert. I also feel like I’ve learned how to snap out of hangovers, by simply removing all the noise that’s pounding my head the morning after.

To Release Self-Neglect and Love Yourself in Action !

Shift Your Self-Perception:-

Feeling worthy requires you to see yourself with fresh eyes of self-awareness and love. Acceptance and love must come from within.
You don’t have to be different to be worthy. Your worth is in your true nature, a core of love and inner goodness. You are a beautiful light. You are love. We can bury our magnificence, but it’s impossible to destroy.
Loving ourselves isn’t a one time event. It’s an endless, ongoing process.
It begins with you, enfolding yourself in your own affection and appreciation.
Read on for steps to discover your worth and enfold yourself in affection and appreciation.

1. Begin your day with love:-

Remind yourself of your worthiness before getting out of bed. Breathe in love and breathe out love. Enfold yourself in light. Saturate your being in love.

2. Take time to meditate and journal:-

Spend time focusing inward daily. Begin with five minutes of meditation and five minutes of journaling each morning. Gradually increase this time.

3. Talk yourself happy.

Use affirmations to train your mind to become more positive. Put a wrist band on your right wrist. When you’re participating in self-criticism, move the band to your left wrist.

4. Get emotionally honest.

Let go of numbing your feelings. Shopping, eating, and drinking are examples of avoiding discomfort, sadness, and pain. Mindfully breathe your way through your feelings and emotions.

5. Expand your interests.

Try something new. Learn a language. Go places you’ve never been. Do things you haven’t done before. You have a right to an awesome life.

6. Enjoy life enhancing activities.

Find exercise you like. Discover healthy foods that are good for you. Turn off technology for a day and spend time doing things that make you feel alive.

7. Become willing to surrender.

Breathe, relax, and let go. You can never see the whole picture. You don’t know what anything is for. Stop fighting against yourself by thinking and desiring people and events in your life should be different. Your plan may be different from your soul’s intentions.

8. Work on personal and spiritual development.

Be willing to surrender and grow. Life is a journey. We are here to learn and love on a deeper level. Take penguin steps and life becomes difficult. One step at a time is enough to proceed forward.

9. Own your potential.

Love yourself enough to believe in the limitless opportunities available to you. Take action and create a beautiful life for yourself.

10. Be patient with yourself.

Let go of urgency and fear. Relax and transform striving into thriving. Trust in yourself, do good work, and you will see results.

11. Live in appreciation.

Train your mind to be grateful. Appreciate your talents, beauty, and brilliance. Love your imperfectly perfect self.

12. Be guided by your intuition.

All answers come from within. Look for signs and pay attention to your gut feelings. You’ll hear two inner voices when you need to make a decision. The quiet voice is your higher self; the loud voice is your ego. Always go with the quieter voice.

13. Do what honors and respects you.

Don’t participate in activities that bring you down. Don’t allow toxic people in your life. Love everyone, but be discerning on who you allow into your life.

14. Accept uncertainty.

Suffering comes from living in the pain of the past or the fear of the future. Put your attention on the present moment and be at peace.

15. Forgive yourself.

Learn from your mistakes and go forward. Use this affirmation, “I forgive myself for judging myself for __________ (fill in the blank i.e.: for getting sick, for acting out, for not doing your best).

16. Discover the power of fun.

Self-love requires time to relax, play, and create face-to-face interaction with others. Our fast-paced world creates a goal setting, competitive craziness that doesn’t leave room for play. Dr. Stuart Brow says, “The opposite of play isn’t work, it is depression.”

17. Be real.

Speak up and speak out. Allow yourself to be seen, known, and heard. Get comfortable with intimacy (in-to-me-see).

18. Focus on the positive.

Go to your heart and dwell on and praise yourself for what you get right in all areas.

19. Become aware of self neglect and rejection.

Become conscious of your choices. Ask yourself several times throughout the day, “Does this choice honor me?”

20. Imagine what your life would look like if you believed in your worth.

Dedicate your life to loving you. Make it your main event.

21. Seek professional help.

Self-rejection and neglect is painful. You deserve to be happy. You have a right to be accepted and loved. If necessary, seek help from a support group, counselor, or coach. It’s the best investment you can make.
Because we are all interconnected, when I love me, I also love you. Together through our love, we can heal ourselves, each other, and the world. Love is our purpose, our true calling. It begins with and within each of us.

Break Out of Frustrating Relationship Routines!

The person you imagine your beloved to be as you are falling in love is just that — an imagined perfect partner you've conjure up in your head. Being human, we can only live up to someone else's "superhero fantasy" for a limited amount of time before the mask falls off, and we reveal just how human we really are. The habits you were able to ignore in the beginning of your relationship — toothpaste cap off; dirty dishes in the sink; nail biting; always needing to be right; always needing to be early, etc. — begin to get on your nerves, and the quirkiness you once found adorable now becomes abominable.

Here are five suggestions for helping to begin the process: 1. Offer empathy to your partner:-
 If you were fortunate to grow up in an environment in which your needs were cheerfully and reliably met, remember that not everyone enjoyed that same luxury.
2. Help your partner understand where you are coming from when you ask for things to be different. 
 Knowing "why” makes doing the “how” a lot easier to handle.
3. Let your partner know how you’d like to see them behave differently:-
 If you just tell someone, “Don’t do that anymore,” without offering an alternative, it might feel like a guessing game, and no one ever wins those.
4. Remember that our behaviors are shaped over decades"-
Learning how to relate in new ways might be a trial-and-error experience. Be patient and always bring realistic expectations to any relationship.

Expectations…Do They Help or Hurt You?

We all have expectations. In my experience I have found expectations to be happiness killers. The times in my life where I just followed my heart, doing what I was good at, everything turned out great. It was only when I started having grand expectations of myself with what I wanted that life started throwing me a curve ball. Expectations can really hurt us, because we can’t predict an outcome. All we can do is do our best, living in the now and staying present.
What is it that we expect from ourselves, and others?  Expecting too much sets us up for disappointment.  So many relationships fail because of expectations we put on the other person and ourselves. When we learn to accept and be grateful for what we have and who we are, we let go of our expectations. Living in the now let’s us be more aware of the present moment, experiencing the event.

Don’t you think it would be better to just live your life, experiencing it as it happens? By taking this action, you really don’t have expectations; you’re just experiencing something as it unfolds.
I have started living my life in the NOW. I must tell you that when I started letting go of all these high expectations I put on myself, everything became lighter for me. I even received a phone call from an old friend saying: “Wow. I don’t know what you are doing right now, but you seem very grounded and peaceful.” He is right. I am! It was all because of letting go of expectations.
Live for today! YES, you should still set goals for yourself. Those are healthy. It’s the expectations that aren’t. Let them go to see if you feel better, lighter and more peaceful, and you’ll find out if these expectations help or hurt you. The best part? I bet you’ll feel freer having let go of your expectations. See what happens when you try!

Relaxation Techniques!

When stress overwhelms your nervous system, your body is flooded with chemicals that prepare you for "fight or flight." This stress response can be lifesaving in emergency situations where you need to act quickly. But when it’s constantly activated by the stresses of everyday life, it can wear your body down and take a toll on your emotional health.
No one can avoid all stress, but you can counteract its detrimental effects by learning how to produce the relaxation response, a state of deep rest that is the polar opposite of the stress response. The relaxation response puts the brakes on stress and brings your body and mind back into a state of equilibrium.
When the relaxation response is activated, your:

• heart rate slows down
• breathing becomes slower and deeper
• blood pressure drops or stabilizes
• muscles relax
• blood flow to the brain increases

In addition to its calming physical effects, the relaxation response also increases energy and focus, combats illness, relieves aches and pains, heightens problem-solving abilities, and boosts motivation and productivity. Best of all, anyone can reap these benefits with regular practice.

Deep Breathing:-

With its focus on full, cleansing breaths, deep breathing is a simple yet powerful relaxation technique. It’s easy to learn, can be practiced almost anywhere, and provides a quick way to get your stress levels in check. Deep breathing is the cornerstone of many other relaxation practices, too, and can be combined with other relaxing elements such as aromatherapy and music. All you really need is a few minutes and a place to stretch out.

How to practice deep breathing

The key to deep breathing is to breathe deeply from the abdomen, getting as much fresh air as possible in your lungs. When you take deep breaths from the abdomen, rather than shallow breaths from your upper chest, you inhale more oxygen. The more oxygen you get, the less tense, short of breath, and anxious you feel.

• Sit comfortably with your back straight. Put one hand on your chest and the other on your stomach.
• Breathe in through your nose. The hand on your stomach should rise. The hand on your chest should move very little.
• Exhale through your mouth, pushing out as much air as you can while contracting your abdominal muscles. The hand on your stomach should move in as you exhale, but your other hand should move very little.
• Continue to breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Try to inhale enough so that your lower abdomen rises and falls. Count slowly as you exhale.

If you find it difficult breathing from your abdomen while sitting up, try lying down. Put a small book on your stomach, and breathe so that the book rises as you inhale and falls as you exhale.

The Positive Psychological Effects Of Prayer!

Prayer is the practice of connecting to something deeper and more meaningful in life. It is rooted in a sense of spirituality. Prayer has two dimensions, one internal in the form of self-reflection and self-awareness, and the other external in a sense of connection with a depth, something bigger than the self and an inner dependency with all the other creation. Prayer, when done with the right awareness and intention and in moderation, can be beneficial in a number of ways:

1. It can give people a moderate sense of optimism and a healthy dose of hope. Optimism that there is more than the tip of the iceberg to life, and hope that when things do not go the way one wants despite reasonable effort, that there are other options.

2. It can help people cultivate a sense of gratitude. Prayer gives the person a quiet moment to use the time to appreciate the positive in life and to remember that at any moment, there is so much more positive than negative to life. And that sometimes, what seems negative may be otherwise.

3. It can help people delay gratification and control impulsive actions. By using this time to calm your mind, you can evaluate situations to see if it would create any harm and if it does, to stop yourself from doing it.

4. It can give people time to be able to see things from a broader perspective and that by itself can help with obsessive acts and compulsive thought or limited thinking.

5. It can help people find commonality and beauty in diversity. By reflecting on what Carl Jung calls the collective unconscious, people realize that they are sharing many of the same needs, desires, essence and beliefs as others, at the root.

6. It can help people focus and concentrate. By taking a break from the daily activities and doing a quiet time, one is able to use it to train his brain to be focused on the here and now.

7. It can help people forgive easier, and detach from the past and move forward.

8. It can give people a sense of security that they are connected to a depth in life.

9. It can give people a sense of comfort, being at ease and being protected, therefore decreasing too much anxiety and irrational fear.

10. It can be used as a time to cultivate rational thinking.

11. It can give people new and creative ways to solve their problems.

12. It can help people unleash.

13. It can be used as a time to learn how to connect better to others and to increase one’s emotional/social maturity.

14. It can be used as a time of self-affirmation to increase one’s confidence.

And remember, by repeating a series of meaningful, positive, lifting, and thankful phrases, you can retrain your brain to be more positive, be aware, be able to focus and concentrate and to let go of unwanted thoughts.

Benefits of Prayer!

According to a 2013 Pew Research Poll, over half of Americans pray every day. A 2012 poll found that over 75 percent of Americans believe that prayer is an important part of daily life. Other polls indicate that even some atheists and religiouslyunaffiliated individuals admit that they sometimes pray.

Our species has probably been praying for as long as we have been able to contemplate our existence. And though we may never be able to establish evidence that a deity or spiritual force actually hears our prayers, in recent years, scientists have begun to consider the potential tangible (i.e., measurable) effects of prayer. And this research suggests that prayer may be very beneficial.

So here are five scientifically-supported benefits of prayer:

1. Prayer improves self-control

Studies have demonstrated that self-control is like a muscle. That is, it gets fatigued. You can only do so many push-ups before your muscles give out. Similarly, activities that require self-control are fatiguing, making it more difficult to make good choices the more you have to use your "self-controlmuscle." Think about it. You are more likely to lose your cool or engage in mindless eating when you are mentally exhausted. 

Recent research indicates that prayer can help you get more out of your "self-control muscle." Research participants who said a prayer prior to a mentally exhausting task were better able to exercise self-control following that task. In addition, other studies demonstrate the prayer reduces alcohol consumption, which may reflect the exercise of self-control. Findings such as these suggest that prayer has an energizing effect.

2. Prayer makes you nicer

Researchers found that having people pray for those in need reduced the amount of aggression they expressed following an anger-inducing experience. In other words, prayer helps you not lose your cool.

3. Prayer makes you more forgiving

Researchers found that having people pray for a romantic partner or friend made them more willing to forgive those individuals.  

4. Prayer increases trust

Recent studies found that having people pray together with a close friend increased feelings of unity and trust. This finding is interesting because it suggests that praying with others can be an experience that brings people closer together. Social prayer may thus help build close relationships.

5. Prayer offsets the negative health effects of stress

Researchers found that people who prayed for others were less vulnerable to the negative physical health effects associated with financial stress. Also, it was the focus on others that seemed to be contributing to the stress-buffering effects of prayer. Praying for material gain did not counter the effects of stress. So thinking about the welfare of others may be a crucial component of receiving personal benefits from prayer.

To Give Your Brain The Sleep It Needs!

While sleep researchers are constantly learning more about why we need sleep, one thing has been clear since the beginning of time: If we don’t get enough of it, we falter. Sleep deprivation has been identified as a factor in countless tragedies including friendly fire incidents in the military, train accidents, plane crashes, industrial and automobile accidents, and medical misjudgments.

Some of us have personally experienced the agony of sleep deprivation when pulling all-nighters in school, taking care of a newborn baby, doing shiftwork, driving for long periods of time, or trying to meet a looming deadline. The effects of sleep deprivation may be subtle at first: our thinking may be a bit more sluggish, our memory not quite as precise, and our movements a bit slower. However, the impact often quickly accelerates, and before we know it we may feel like we are moving through the world in a slow-motion state of clumsiness and increasing confusion.

What is less obvious is that sleep deprivation actually impairs our ability to process and store the memories that we form during our waking hours. Furthermore, if sleep deprivation is chronic (occurring over months or years), it may also be a risk factor for Alzheimer’s disease.

Just this summer, researchers at Washington University found that disrupted sleep led to increased levels of two proteins associated with Alzheimer’s – beta amyloid and tau. In the study, beta amyloid levels increased after just one night of sleep deprivation, and tau levels increased after one week of sleep deprivation. Although it is likely that the brain has a mechanism for correcting for such effects of short-term sleep deprivation, this finding may provide a possible explanation for the link between chronic sleep deprivation and Alzheimer’s. 

Related findings in a mouse model of Alzheimer’s showed that not only was beta amyloid significantly higher in mice who were sleep deprived, but the rate at which beta amyloid was cleared from the brain doubled during sleep. Although this brain-cleaning mechanism has not yet been observed in humans, it is interesting to note that beta amyloid levels in humans increase throughout the day, but decrease during sleep. These results – when combined with data showing that sleep is necessary to successfully remember information – provide growing support for the link between sleep and brain health.  

Because sleep is often the first casualty of an overextended schedule, many of us do not feel well rested and refreshed on a regular basis. So, how do we give our brain the sleep it needs to function at optimal levels?

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1. Figure out how much sleep you need to feel well rested. Although the average person requires 7-9 hours of sleep, many individuals need more or less time. How do you know how much is optimal for you? If you feel refreshed, awaken without an alarm clock, feel alert throughout the day (without excessive use of caffeine), and do not fall asleep immediately after your head hits the pillow, chances are you are getting enough sleep. If you are not getting enough sleep, gradually increase the amount of time you sleep until you feel well rested, and prioritize getting that amount on a regular basis.

2. Schedule in “down-time” prior to bedtime. Engaging in a relaxing pre-bedtime ritual helps signal the body of the upcoming transition to sleep, and improves sleep quality. Calming activities might include dimming the lights, reading, and listening to soft music. Also consider turning off blue-light devices about an hour before bedtime (e.g. televisions, cell phones, tablets), given that blue light has been shown to interfere with melatonin, a sleep-inducing hormone.

3. If you can’t fall asleep after 10 minutes, get up and do something relaxing. When we lie in bed and think about things for long periods of time before falling asleep, our brain unwittingly links lying in bed with thinking. As a result, we may automatically go into “thinking” mode rather than “sleeping” mode when we lie down the next time. To teach your brain to pair lying in bed with sleeping, if you cannot fall asleep after 10 minutes, get up and do something calming such as reading or meditating. Then return to bed when you feel groggy. Repeat this as many times as necessary in a given night. This recommendation may seem paradoxical, but it really works! Over time, your brain will more readily go into sleeping mode rather than thinking mode when you lie down.

Prioritizing optimal sleep helps your brain function faster, remember better, and just may help to minimize the risk of Alzheimer’s. Optimal sleep also helps reduce the risk of accidents, and maximizes mood, quality of life, and immune functioning. With all of these benefits, it’s time to prioritize getting some Zz’s!

Slow Breathing To Decrease Anxity With Slow Anxiety and Panic!

• Many anxiety sufferers breathe too fast and shallow. When confronted with a feared scenario  they breathe rapidly which leads to increased shortness of breath and further hyperventilation. 
  Some Symptoms hyperventilation 
  1:-Dizziness
  

  2:-Light headedness 

  3:Lump in the throat

  4:-Fatigue

  5:-Poor concentration

  6:-Choking  sensatio

  7:-Difficulty swallowing

  8:-Racing heart

  9:-Shaking

  10:-Blurred vision

  11:-Shortness of breath

  12:-Chest pain

  13:-Disorientation

  14:-Tingly sensations  or numbness in the hands, feet and mouth.

People who chronically breathe too fast tend to sigh often, take deep breaths and feel short of breath.

Slow breathing can relieve anxiety and prevent you from having a panic attack, if you do it as soon as you notice yourself over breathing or becoming anxious. Socially phobic and panicky people are advised to slow their breathing before tackling a feared situation or at any time they feel anxious.

When you are first learning this breathing relaxation exercise you may find it easiest to practice  lying flat on your back, knees bent, feet flat on the floor and eight inches apart. Place one hand on your chest and one hand on your abdomen.
Hold your breath and count to 10
Then breathe out and think’ relax’ to yourself

Then inhale slowly through your nose for 3 seconds. The hand on your abdomen should rise whilst the hand on your chest should stay relatively still.

Then exhale through your mouth for three seconds, making a whooshing noise as you breathe out. Think “RELAX” as you exhale. The hand on your abdomen should fall as you exhale.

After a minute of breathing in and out in a six second cycle, hold your breath again for 10 seconds
Keep repeating this process for 5 minutes.

Once you feel you have mastered the technique lying down, then start practicing slow breathing whilst sitting or standing. Then you will be able to do slow breathing to relax yourself wherever you are in public.
Do this deep breathing for 20 minutes a day and any time when you feel yourself becoming anxious. Depending upon your commitments you might need to break up your 20 minutes during the day into 4 x 5 minutes relaxation segments or 2 x 10 minute relaxation segments.

Detaching Past Experiences!

If you don’t detach your negative past experiences which affect your life, they will continue to haunt you and reoccur through an auto-pilot type effect. Detachment comes from a seed which evolves within until you have had enough and explode. This happens when you are forced to change because everything seems out of our control, or feeling empty, or until something greater enters your life. When creating change at this point, the seed must be dealt with or it will reappear and make no mistake, it will affect you on every level mind body and spirit. Signs will include low energy, over-eating /addictive behaviours, or the physical body is affected because you are not looking after yourself.

Life is a like a heart beat. When you are living YOUR life it is alive, when you stop living YOUR life it becomes flat lined so to speak. Life will always have its ups and downs... these are simply opportunities for you to shine, detach problems, and attach yourself to solutions. Therefore it is important to choose your attachments wisely.

Breathing Exercise for Stress!

This calming breathing technique for stress, anxiety and panic takes just a few minutes and can be done anywhere.
You will get the most benefit if you do it regularly, as part of your daily routine.
You can do it standing up, sitting in a chair that supports your back, or lying on a bed or yoga mat on the floor.
Make yourself as comfortable as you can. If you can, loosen any clothes that restrict your breathing.
If you're lying down, place your arms a little bit away from your sides, with the palms up. Let your legs be straight, or bend your knees so your feet are flat on the floor.
If you're sitting, place your arms on the chair arms.
If you’re sitting or standing, place both feet flat on the ground. Whatever position you're in, place your feet roughly hip-width apart.

• Let your breath flow as deep down into your belly as is comfortable, without forcing it.
• Try breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth.
• Breathe in gently and regularly. Some people find it helpful to count steadily from one to five. You may not be able to reach five at first.
• Then, without pausing or holding your breath, let it flow out gently, counting from one to five again, if you find this helpful.
• Keep doing this for three to five minutes.

Healing Touch methods!

Healing Touch

You can heal yourself, but if healing is new to you, a trained spiritual healer can help accelerate your healing using Healing Touch also known as “Therapeutic Touch.” Nurse Janet Mentgen founded Healing Touch (HT) in 1989. This a method that uses “Attunement.”

The healer using his or her hands just above your body acts as a channel for transferring healing energy into your body. Healing Touch unblocks your meridians and cleanses your aura. Spiritual energy is directed through your Chakras.

Healers don’t have to make contact with your body using Healing Touch. The healer is receptive to your energy field. The healer identifies issues in your aura, then supports your immune system so you can heal yourself naturally.

Distance Healing

Distance healing, also called remote healing has the same effect as healing touch. You give permission to the healer to help you. The remote healer links to your aura and imagines you in perfect health and sends you healing energy which flows through you. The healer will also visualize you in good health in the future. All healing is based on the law of universal natural energy which can be shared with anyone.

This type of healing is not faith healing. Remote healing is a way of transferring natural energies to others through visualization. It does not matter how far away your healer is from you. Thoughts transcend time and space.

Spend Time in Spiritual Places

Visiting spiritual locations like parks or museums will have an enormous magnetic influence on you. The positive energy of these places never goes away. The positive vibrations of the people who are linked with these locations are still there.

Start to develop your unique aura. Be aware of your own magnetism. This is of vital importance. Feel your aura surrounding yourself wherever you go. Imagine it encapsulating you. Then expand your aura to include others who are close by. People will be attracted to your positive energy, and you will repel negative individuals.

You affect others with your magnetism, and they affect you with theirs. Mix with spiritual people. When you do this, you increase the energy of everyone involved.

Spiritual Healers

Spiritual healer’s themselves benefit from healing others. They do not lose energy; they gain energy. Healing energy is not in limited supply, it is infinite. Spiritual power is generated by the spiritual healer using good intentions, love, and kindness.

The method spiritual healers use is the intense targeting of illness by directing universal energy through your unblocked free flowing energy paths. The effect is total healing.

Energy Healing!

Energy healing is about “The Whole Person,” not just the ailment. Every part of you is connected. You are a whole being, and all your organs are interdependent. Energy healing accepts that your body, mind, and soul are

Here are three powerful steps to unlimited energy.

Step 1

For your mind to control your body, it must first be calm and quiet. There is an easy way to do this.

When you breathe, breathe in deeply. Inhale and slowly exhale. As you exhale, breathe out a bit more. This will empty your lungs of any stale air. Now take your first real breath.

Step 2

As you are breathing, say in your mind, “I am breathing in a healing light.” At the same time, imagine a pure white light covering you. You are now full of pure spiritual energy. Don’t force anything. Let it happen naturally.

As you exhale, say to yourself, “I am breathing out all my stress and pain.” This will cleanse your energy field, your “Aura.” Thinking of a pure white light surrounding you will also raise your vibration.

Keep doing this, slowly breathing in and out. Breathing in a pure healing light of energy and breathing out impurities. Be calm and relaxed. Don’t overdo it otherwise you will become light-headed.

Step 3

After doing this, you will feel balanced. In this state, keep imagining the white light covering you, and ask the universe for happiness and calm in your life. Ask for love for everyone, everywhere. Remain calm and focused. Don’t ask for money or material possessions, just ask for peace and love. Everything else will follow.

Say, “Thank you” for what you already have, and all your wishes will be granted. All the powers of the universe will now assist you.

Doing this will change your life. Just imagine having pure white light protecting you everywhere you go. You will feel beautiful. There are people all over the world who do this daily, and it gives them so much joy.

Here are the three steps again.

Step 1. Start with gentle deep breathing. This relaxes you.

Step 2. Imagine a pure white light covering you.

Step 3. Ask the universe for happiness and peace in your life.

After you’ve finished, imagine yourself protected by that pure white light. This is incredibly powerful. When you are calm, and covered in a pure white light of love, and ask the universe for help, your body starts healing automatically. Your thoughts are powerful, and energy healing affects your body at a quantum level.

Natural Healing Ways!

Natural Healing:-

Natural healing identifies the underlying source of your illness. Modern medicine deals with symptoms, natural healing understands causes. Negative energy is present in 99% of people living in modern society. It’s there for the following reasons.

Stress – Fight-or-Flight:-

Fight or flight is your ancient survival mechanism. Without knowing it most of us activate this device over 30 times daily. Fight or flight suppresses your immune system. Why? Because in moments of stress your body thinks it will need all its resources to deal with the situation at hand, so it temporarily shuts down your immune system. That’s bad because now you’re not protected against the disease. What’s also bad is that when the stressful situation is over, it takes time for your body to switch back on its immune system fully. Your blood pressure and sugar levels also rise during fight-or-flight.

Trauma Impressions:-

Any suffering you may have been through will leave an imprint in your body’s meridians. You may not be aware of these impressions, and that is why they are so harmful. Trauma imprints may also be there because of the pain or harm you caused others.

Negative Thoughts:-

Thoughts carry energy through your body. If your thoughts are negative, then blocks are created along the lines of your meridians. The most common negative thoughts are worry and fear.

How to Heal Yourself:-

Remember, healing starts by removing negative energy blocks along your body’s meridians. If you don’t do this first, everything else, medicine, exercise and therapy will be diluted. A disease is when your body is out of balance. So how can you heal yourself and restore balance to your body? You start by removing your energy blocks.

Relax:-

Put yourself into a state of deep relaxation. Breathing deeply is the fastest way to relax and reduce stress. Don’t breathe too deeply, just enough to relax. You can also do this by meditating. Imagine a gentle waterfall of pure water falling onto you, cleansing your mind and body.

Identify:-

Identify the traumas that you have been through during your life.

Identify traumas that you have put others through during your life.

Replay:-

Replay the traumatic experiences in your mind. Face your feelings head on. At this point, you may become emotional; this is a good sign. Crying and feeling guilty are essential parts of the healing process, this helps you let go of all the pain at a deeply profound level.

Forgive:-

Forgive those who hurt you. You must forgive to move on; it’s hard but necessary. Forgiveness releases you from the trauma of your past.

Ask for forgiveness from those you hurt (do this in your mind and mean it). Saying sorry sends a message to those you hurt and allows them to forgive you and move on with their lives.

Permission:-

Now give your soul permission to release itself from all past suffering.

Feeling Lighter:-

Imagine yourself feeling much lighter now as all your negative energy blocks disappear.

Promises:-

You may have made promises that you couldn’t keep. We all do. It’s not your fault. Your intentions were good, but for whatever reason, you couldn’t keep all your promises. Allow yourself to be released from these obligations. They can also create blocks because of guilt. You did your best, now let go. It’s time to start again. If you feel that you made promises in a previous life and didn’t keep them, say sorry and you will be released.

Aspire based Profession healing your Career!

If you aspire to have a spiritually based profession, whereby you are helping others and bringing enlightenment, healing and love to the world, be encouraged to follow your passion. It is a sign of your destiny and soul path – and is time to begin! 
Each person has a personal soul mission or life purpose. This mission is something you agreed to undertake and learn during this lifetime prior to incarnating. Lessons may include such themes as learning to be compassionate, self-reliant, a leader, or about forgiveness, patience or sharing with others. There is any number of these soul growth lessons for us to learn and each of us has our own set of life themes and lessons. 

 Make sure you put your heart and soul into your work. Being genuinely passionate about what you do keeps the momentum and enthusiasm flowing.

That compulsive urge and/or dream of becoming a spiritual facilitator is much more than just an idea - it is a sign.

Often what holds many back from pursuing a spiritually based career is a ‘fear’ of lack. The questions raised may be along the lines of “how will I be able to support myself and my family financially?” “If I quit my day job will I be able to survive financially?” “What would people think and say?”

Many people hesitate becoming public speakers, healers and teachers due to fear of ridicule, rejection and/or ostracism. Yes, there will be those who will criticize and judge you - but that happens regardless of whatever path you take, and there will always be those who dwell in the negative. Continue along your path regardless. Don’t listen to nay-sayers or negative, unsupportive people.

These are common stumbling blocks - but ones which can be overcome with a little faith and trust in the Universe. When you are on your true soul mission, TRUST that all you need will come to you in divine right time. You’ll attract the people who you are to work with, the appropriate clients or students and the appropriate environment.

When we love our work, everything else falls into place. When you genuinely love what you do your main focus is not money-based but rather love-based - and the Universe will take care of the rest.

"When a man is willing and eager, the gods join in." 

Sympathy feelings developed!

Many erroneously believe that the terms sympathy and empathy are synonymous. Although both words have to do with feelings, they do express different grades of feelings. But before I go in to the details of explaining the differences, let’s look first at what the dictionary says.
Sympathy means feeling pity and sorrow for someone’s misfortune. Example: they had great pity for the flood victims. Sympathy can also be a formal expression of feelings, such as: Mark’s friends joined in sending their sympathies to his widow Jane.   

Another meaning for sympathy is the understanding between people, a common feeling, as in: the special sympathy between the two girls is obvious to everyone. Or, it can mean support in the form of shared feelings or opinions, as in: his sympathies lay with the other party. Sympathy can also mean to be in agreement with or to approve an opinion or aim, a favorableattitude, example: I have some sympathy for her point of view. Yet another meaning is relating harmoniously to something else, as in: repairs had to be in sympathy with the original structure. Sympathy can also be the state of fact of responding in a way similar or corresponding to an action elsewhere, as in: the magnetic field oscillates in sympathy.
Now let’s look at the word empathy. In this same dictionary where I found all the above, I found just one sentence to explain the word empathy, which was: the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. I was disappointed. I found this definition rather skinny so I searched further and here’s what I found: empathy is not to be confused with pity, sympathy or compassion. Then it said: empathy from the Greek to suffer is commonly defined as one’s ability to recognize, perceive and directly feel the emotion of another. As the states of mind, beliefs, and desires of others are intertwined with their emotions, one with empathy for another may often be able to more effectively define another’s mode of thought and mood. Empathy is often characterized as the ability to experience the outlook or emotions of another being within oneself, a sort of emotional resonance. This next definition I found to be quite accurate: Empathy involves the inner experience of sharing in and comprehending the momentary psychological state of another person.
So you see there is quite a difference in the two emotions of sympathy and empathy and I shall delve deeper into the meaning of both and why it is so much more desirable to develop the feeling of empathy in one and all regardless of age, gender or status in life.
process of the individual.

Why is it so important to develop this virtue, the quality of empathy? I believe in our day and age, when wars and violence are raging and rampant all around us, not only between nations but also in businesses, in institutions, in politics, in schools, in social groups and in families, it is imperative and would be of a great advantage if we begin to look at this and to understand how empathy can change the life of a person and of everyone this person comes in contact with. I daresay that an empathetic person enjoys a much higher quality of life on every level, simply because with empathy an individual is more centered, calm, patient, fair, has an in-depth understanding of what another person is going through, is non judgmental, not afraid of responsibility or commitment, gives without expecting a return, is willing to share and has no desire to hurt anyone or to gain anything for selfish needs at

anyone else’s expense..
Sympathy focuses on feeling sorry for the person who is suffering because of bad news without really having any understanding or feeling with the peson in pain, whereas empathy focuses on experiencing and sharing the pain of the person with full understanding of the feelings, even tuning in to the inner world of the person in pain.
Here are some hints on how to develop the feelings of empathy. You can begin immediately and you will be surprised how soon you and the quality of your life will change for the better.
1:- Focus on the self and the feelings you have. Analyse and understand your own feelings and  behavior patterns. Feelings of fear, resentments, joy, etc. You’ll probably find much that you will not be proud of. No matter, take note and keep on facing yourself with all the good and the bad. This should help you to cultivate tolerance and you will be less harsh and judgmental with others when you meet with their weaknesses.
2:- Next you focus on how similar your feelings are with other people’s feelings. Notice how much alike you are with all these feelings regardless of gender, race or background. We all have fears, harborresentments, are insecure in one area or another, are angry with someone, and we all have more or less the same wishes too, to do better and to move on in life. As you take notice and make the comparisons you will automatically have more understanding for everyone you deal with. With better understanding your relationships and communication will improve.
3:-Make a point to see other people’s perspective by reading about other people’s lives, or watching movies, documentaries or life stories. Live a day with an invalid to understand what it means to be blind or paralyzed. Put yourself in your child’s shoes for a day to see life from your child’s point of view. Imagine yourself in the other person’s place this will enhance your feeling of empathy. Show genuine curiosity and interest, be involved. This will widen your understanding of human behavior.
4:- Exposure to the suffering of others, their feelings, their pain helps in the development of the quality of empathy. Exposure to other cultures, beliefs, customs, promotes more understanding, flexibility and open mindedness which are the characteristics of empathy. Often people don’t watch the news, too much bad news they say. but if you cut yourself off from what is going on in the world you lose touch with reality. When you see the homeless on the streets, look at them, see them, imagine what it would be like if you were the one out there. How would you feel ?
5:-Encourage interpersonal relationships with schoolmates, family,friends, neighbors and work colleagues. Look at the salesman in the eye, connect with the cab driver for a few minutes. Be polite and kind with family, neighbors and friends. Encourage team work and group activities wherever possible on every level. It is through being and interacting with other people that one learns to be tolerant of the diversity in character and background. One learns patience, one learns to share, to be less self centered and less selfish. The more open you are, the more receptive and the more exposure you have to different situations and structures the more empathy you will develop.