Mind Over Medicine!

The body's natural self-repair mechanisms only fully function when the nervous system is in relaxation response.

We all know stress is bad for us, but did you realize that every stressful thought, feeling or belief — we average more than 50 such responses every day — disables the body's ability to repair itself? We have an unhealthy relationship with the very notion of stress. We often think it means that we're too busy (and therefore that we're worthy and important). But it's much more than demands on your time and energy. Sure, stress can be running around like a headless chicken, trying to check off your to-do list. But as far as your nervous system is concerned, stress is also social isolation and loneliness. It's selling your soul for a paycheck. Stress is a pessimistic worldview. It's toxic relationships. Stress is money worries. It's knowing you have a song within you that has yet to be sung, or feeling out of touch with your life's purpose. Stress is negative beliefs about your health. It's feeling like nobody really gets the real you. It's pretending to be something that you're not. And stress is feeling disconnected from your higher power.

Your brain can't tell the difference between "I'm getting chased by a tiger!" and "Nobody loves me" or "I'm never going to get well." As far as the nervous system is concerned, they all signal imminent danger, and that is what stress really is, as far as your body is concerned. 
Lonely People:- have double the rate of heart disease than those who are part of a supportive community, and that researchers have found that loneliness may be a greater risk factor for your health than smoking or not exercising? Did you know that optimists have a 77 percent lower risk of heart disease than pessimists, or that happy people live seven to 10 years longer than unhappy people?

THE YOGA DIET HEALING!

Practiced worldwide,yoga is one of the most popular exercise modalities. Though yoga is effective in training your body, giving you improved flexibility, tone and strength, yoga is also about training your mind. The word yoga actually means "to connect," and, in addition to the physical fitness, it offers many mind-related benefits.

Yoga is not just exercise; rather, it embodies the food you eat, your interaction with others, and the way you spend your day.

THE YOGA DIET:-

Yogis stress that consumption of "good" food, though not the goal of yoga, is an important step in the yoga ladder. Food is also considered in the three modes.

Mode of goodness:- 

Food in the mode of goodness increases longevity, purifies one's existence, and gives strength, health and satisfaction. The ideal diet includes only milk products, grains, sugar, fruit and vegetables.

Mode of passion:- 

This mode contains foods that are too bitter, sour, salty, pungent, rich, dry or hot. Like the effects of passion and desire, this type of food causes pain, distress or disease to the body.

Mode of ignorance:- 

This mode includes foods that taste stale, putrid, decomposed or unclean, or lack taste entirely. This includes leftovers, meat, fish, eggs and liquor. Foods of ignorance should be avoided to reach the perfection of yoga.

Mode of purified goodness:- 

This mode, one above the mode of goodness, is considered unattainable to the average yoga practitioner. The food in purified goodness is only the remnants of a saintly person or a spiritual master -- a virtual impossibility for most.

Spiritual energy healing!

There are many ways of achieving this balance, the most popular and appreciated way is spiritual energy healing. “Spiritual energy healing is a process of igniting the inner life force and transforming it to achieve this balance.” Thus, considering this unique ability of spiritual energy healing, many people seem to opt for it these days. So, here is a look at some of the key benefits of spiritual energy healing: 

1. Enhances spiritual growth thereby resulting to emotional clearing. 

2. Helps in achieving deep relaxation that enables human mind and body to release stress, thereby attaining peace of mind. 

3. As there is drastic decrease in stress levels, the mind stays healthy and thus, the again process is slowed down.

4. Improves the body’s immune system. 

5. Ensures sound sleep which is the key to a healthy and alert body and mind. 

6. Keeps your blood pressure in control.

 7. Ensures improved metabolism that helps to generate the right amount of energy that is channelized in the right way too.

 8. Equips the body with an auto system of cleansing the body from toxins. 

 Considering the detailing the spiritual energy healing process uses to heal people, these healing sessions are to exclusive and specific from individual to individual. These sessions are popularly known as spiritual wellness programs that focus at the following points: -

a. Establishing peace of mind by igniting self confidence that helps you overcome difficulties. . 

b.Creating a sense of belief and acceptance about the existence of God that leads to a sense of safety 

c. Makes human mind realise the essence of life and thus slows down the race for materialistic desires that eventually help reduce depression and stress. -

Using the mind to heal the body

What does being healed mean to you? How much does the mind truly affect your ability to recover after an illness, undergoing surgery or suffering a loss? The mind-body connection has been studied and documented for many years. Research shows that a correlation between the desire to heal and actual healing exists -- and can be enhanced if the mind is engaged in a positive way toward that goal. Here’s more on how you can use your mind to heal your body.

Laughter is the best medicine:-

We've all heard the old adage that laughter is the best medicine -- and it turns this often-heard piece of advice has scientific evidence to back it up.

Health benefits of laughter therapy:-

"Laughing together helps people feel more connected and supported, and it offers a distraction from difficult situations. I've heard patients say at the end of Laughter Club, 'I didn't even think about cancer for the last hour!' "

Humor can increase feel-good hormones and immunity:-

"Physically, laughter (i.e., experiencing and expressing mirth) can increase endorphins, the 'feel-good' hormones that can improve mood and decrease physical pain,"

Love for longevity:-

"Connections with other people affect not only the quality of our lives," he adds, "but also the quantity of our lives – that is, our longevity and our survival."

Health is a state of mind:-

Our bodies take cues from our minds, and can subsequently affect our physical condition accordingly. Even for those who might not put much stock in the metaphysical, the mind-body connection is constantly in play, like it or not.

Psychology of healing may save your life:-

The psychology of healing lies in the ability to set your mind toward health, happiness and successful repair. And who knows? It might just save your life.

More on the benefits of meditation:-

 Mindfulness meditation exercise. It's a simple but powerful exercise that anyone can do. If you're looking for a relaxing meditation this is perfect and enjoy.

Fighting Terror with Forgiveness!

Seven steps that can be adapted to your own use, and they go like this: 

 

1. Select a bitter sorrow, a serious grievance against someone, or a punishing charge against yourself, and review it in complete detail.

2. Hold in your mind the image of whatever is to be forgiven -­ yourself, another person, a past event ­- and say, “I release you from the grip of my sadness, disapproval, or condemnation.” Concentrate quietly on this intention.

3. Imagine for a while what your life will be like without the sorrow or grievance that has been haunting you.

4. Make amends with someone you’ve hurt or someone who has hurt you; tell a friend about your self-forgiveness; or otherwise bring your inner work to your relationships.

5. Ask for God’s help to overcome fear or resistance at any step. If you do not believe in God, ask for help from nature, humanity, and the mysteries of your own mind. These are the channels through which aid is sent -­ and aid is always sent.

6. Have patience. Forgiveness induces healing which follows its own order and timing. Whether you think you have accomplished anything thus far is less important than the fact that you have attempted a radical act that will call forth change likely to exceed your expectations. Go about your daily business, but stay alert to unexpected shifts in your thinking, feeling, and relationships.

7. Repeat steps 1 through 6 as often as necessary, for life. 

That’s it! You can fight terror today by forgiving the next little thing that bugs you ­- and then forgive whatever comes next. Rest assured that on your way to greater peace, sharper intelligence, and a true fearlessness, you’ll always find plenty of opportunities to forgive.

10 Tips for Calming Your Mind!

Here is what we know about how to influence the mind-body and the body-mind system. Consider these essential survival skills. You cannot thrive without them!
1.Address the Underlying Causes of Stress:-

Find the biological causes of problems with the mind by working on the 7Keys to UltraWellness. Mercury toxicity or a magnesium or vitamin B12 deficiency or a toxic gut chemical or a gluten allergy could be changing your brain. So, by changing your body, you can change your mind!

2.Relax:

Learn how to ACTIVELY relax. To engage the powerful forces of the mind on the body, you must DO something — you can’t just sit there watching television or drinking beer.  

3.Learn New Skills:- 

Try learning new skills such as meditation, deep breathing, yoga, biofeedback, and progressive muscle relaxation or take a hot bath, make love, get a massage, watch a sunset, or walk in the woods or on the beach.

4.Move Your Body:-

Exercise is a powerful, well-studied way to burn off stress chemicals and heal the mind, so just do it! It has been proven to be better than or equal to Prozac for treating depression. 

5.Optimize Your Nutrition:-

Clean up your diet from mind-robbing molecules like caffeine, alcohol, and refined sugars and eat regularly to avoid the short-term stress of starvation on your body. 

6.Supplement:-

Take a multivitamin and nutrients to help balance the stress response, such as vitamin C; the B-complex vitamins, including B6 and B5 or pantothenic acid; zinc; and most important, magnesium, the relaxation mineral. 

7.Try Herbs:-  

Use adaptogenic herbs (herbs that help you adapt and balance your response to stress) such as ginseng, Rhodiola rosea, Siberian ginseng, cordyceps, and ashwagandha.

8.Use Heat Therapy:-

Take a hot bath or a sauna to help your body deeply relax and turn on the relaxation response. 

9.Change Your Beliefs:- 

Examine your beliefs, attitudes, and responses to common situations and consider reframing your point of view to reduce stress. 

10.Find a Community:-

Consciously build your network of friends, family, and community. They are your most powerful allies in     achieving long-term health.

 

Grow Your Spirit!

 Confront Your Inner Demons

Everyone makes mistakes or regrets past decisions. Exposing our frailties and recognizing that we are not perfect frees us from feeling stupid or "less than." Bring light to those things that you are not proud of and realize that through these experiences you have learned great lessons, and have likely become a better person for them. Keeping negative actions hidden can overshadow our spirits with shame or depression. We all deserve to live with joy regardless of our imperfections.

 Accept Change - Go with the Flow

There is a fine line between caution and fear. We are meant to travel along a spiritual pathway. We are not meant to remain stunted in one place for very long. Yes, change can be scary. But, change is a path of learning, so why not follow it? When we resist change we can actually create chaos. Do you want to undertake a lesson down a path which you've chosen, or have lessons thrown at you down a path that was forced upon you?

Accept Delays

There are times when we need to be still.Impatience or frustration will not help any situation. Desired changes sometime take time to unfold. You may feel like you are ready to jump into a new arena... but wait. The situation or person that you are wanting to meet may not be ready for you just yet. It's okay to sit at the bus stop for a few more minutes, the bus will arrive eventually. What's the hurry?

Love and Honor Yourself

Are you taking good care of yourself? Your physical body is the vehicle that has been loaned to you to live out your life in and to assist growing your spirit with. Pamper your body, tend to your illnesses, exercise and give it the proper nutrients.

 

 Dealing with Death and Illness

Physical life is a gift that comes with a variety of experiences. Suffering and illness are bundled in with that package of experiences. Although our bodies have expiration dates, our spirits don't expire. Choosing to look at illness and death in positive ways rather than negatively will help to give your life here on the planet deeper meaning.

Grow Your Spirit!

1. Embrace Your Talents

Recognize and further develop your intelligence and special gifts. Our talents are signifier that lead us toward our unique paths. Follow your passion and you will soon discover where you fit in this world. When we squelch innate yearnings we lose our way.

2. Tie Up Loose Ends

Unresolved issues eat away at us emotionally and mentally. Tackle troubling things that need dealt with and put them to rest. In the meanwhile, learn not to allow future problems to be ignored. Our wounds fester when they are not attended to in a timely manner. Realize that buried problems always surface eventually. Dealing with difficulties as they arise rather than hiding from them is the best route.

3. Be Responsible in Your Relationships

Turn away from the "blame game" when it comes to addressing problems in your relationships. Be honest about the things that you have said or done that harmed the relationship. Own up to your own failures. Focus on changing your defeating patterns rather than expecting changes from the other person.

4. Love Sometimes Means Saying Goodbye

Not all relationships are meant to last forever. We sometimes out grow our partners, or our partner goes off in a direction which makes us struggle to stay in step with. Sometimes, the most responsible thing you can do is to offer love and compassion to the person as you release the relationship.

5. Let Go of Useless Attachments

If a thing no longer serves a purpose in your life, it is clutter. Clutter can be a physical thing or a belief that blocks your path. Holding on to things that don't feed you will instead eat up your energy. Free your space and expand your energy by getting rid of unwanted gifts, broken or useless items, self-defeating mental images, etc.

Positive Self-Talk and the Power of the Mind!

Remember that you are programming your mind all the time with your self-talk. You can power your mind through positive self talk and the use of affirmations. Daily use of affirmations and positive internal dialogue can go a long way in supporting your Personal Growth Use them and watch as you go far beyond any levels you have in the past. Then, when you are ready to really push through faster, learn to access deeper levels of mind through hypnosis, meditation and other mind power exercise  Expand your “comfort zones.”

Mind Power at Work!

Whether you are aware of it or not, the power of your mind is ALWAYS at work … but not always in your awareness.

The subconscious mind is an entirely different "creature" from the conscious mind. This is often a difficult idea to truly grasp, and yet it is precisely the reason that people unknowingly sabotage themselves, are over-stressed, or struggle to reach their goals. Often the root cause of persistent problems in health, relationships and success is a split between your conscious wants and your subconscious mind “programming.”

The power of the mind, particularly the subconscious, is always present – holding you back or propelling you forward. It is helping you or hurting you, so you may as well take hold of it.

Mind Power at Work

In your relationships, your health, your financial success and your  habits ,the power of mind influences the results you get. The good news is that the power of the mind (on all levels) can be accessed and even reprogrammed to help you reach your goals.

But it won’t happen on its own. You must recognize where your subconscious mind enjoys its "comfort zones" and how you can start to nudge it beyond that fixed level.

As an example, if you were the person above who wanted a stronger sense of comfort and relaxation in your life, it would be helpful for you to identify the limiting unconscious beliefs holding you back. Then go to work on reprogramming your subconscious mind.

The Healing Power of Play!

Loosening the grip of negative emotions through play is one of my favorite ways to shift out of misery into happiness.It’s not only fun but it’s healing as well.

 

It’s true -- love, joy, and happiness can heal what ails us, and so can facing

revealing and releasing whatever dark feelings are repressing our aliveness (and our immune system). There are many ways to do that, but for me the most fun way is to play with it, welcome it, make it bigger and more outrageous! When you crack yourself up, you crack yourself open and are more available for deep learning and healing. And, if you can laugh at something, you can be free of it.

What shadows of yours are you most ashamed to reveal? Invite them to the party, give them a party hat, exaggerate them, let it rip, and celebrate the healing power of play!

Sleep Smarter!

Too much Sleep, or not enough of it, can be harmful for your health.A British study found that getting more than nine hours of sack time a night, or less than six, doubles your risk of an early death from any cause.Aim for seven to eight hours a night.Sleeping for sufficient hours improves memory, sharpens attention, and curds inflammation which is linked to heart disease, stroke, diabetes, arthritis and premature aging,
Researcher also indicates that people who get less sleep six or fewer hours a night have higher blood level of inflammatory proteins than those who get more.

LAUGH!

Laughing not only eases stress, promotes social bonding, and lower blood pressure, but it may also boost your immune system.So bring some humor into your life,whether it's through friends or even a new Tv show.
Laughing increases you oxygenation of blood, exercises your abdomen, respiratory, facial, leg and back muscles, as well as improves alertness!

Boost brian Power with Music!

What Should you do for your brain to be fit and in shape?

Play an instrument!A study pulled together data from around the world studying the effect of music on the brain.They found that musical training, or any interaction with music including listening improved the brain's ability to handle communication,Moreover, children with musical training have better than average vocabulary and reading ability.So every time you put on your ear buds to listen to the music,You're improving your brain's fitness!

Calming Your Mind Healing!

1. Relax :-

 Learn how to ACTIVELY relax engage toe the powerful forces of the mind on the body,

  you must DO something -- you can't just sit there watching television or drinking beer.

3. Learn New Skills :- 

Try learning new skills such as meditation, deep breathing, yoga, biofeedback, and progressive muscle relaxation or take a hot bath, make love, get a massage, watch a sunset, or walk in the woods or on the beach.

4. Move Your Body:- 

 Exercise is a powerful, well-studied way to burn off stress chemicals and heal the mind, so just do it! It has been proven to be better than or equal to Prozac for treating depression.

5.Optimize your Nutrition:-

Clean up your diet from mind-robbing molecules like caffeine, alcohol, and refined sugars and eat regularly to avoid the short-term stress of starvation on your body.

6. Use Heat Therapy:- 

Take a hot bath or a sauna to help your body deeply relax and turn on the relaxation response.

7. Change Your Beliefs:- 

Examine your beliefs, attitudes, and responses to common situations and consider reframing your point of view to reduce stress.

Enjoy Your Life More easy Steps!

Here are my top five tips for rediscovering simplicity in your life:

1.Treat yourself to some silence.

Silence can mean different things to different people. The early hours of the morning, the serenity of the countryside, the few moments after you turn off the motor of your car, or even the simplicity of a clean and tidy room. Do your best to seek out this kind of silence, at least once a day. You deserve it.

2.Do one thing at a time.

Contrary to popular belief, only about 2.5 percent of people have the ability to effectively focus on more than one task at a time. So for the other 97.5 percent of us,multi-tasking makes things harder, not easier. Give yourself a break -- one complete thing is plenty to be focusing on at a time.

3.Quit trying so hard.

That might sound like an astonishing suggestion, but one of the things that we learn from meditation is that exerting effort, particularly to try to force the mind to do anything, is often counterproductive. Try to take a relaxed approach. Think of an athlete or a performer, whom you love -- do they make it look easy? It's that level of relaxed effort that you're looking for.

4.Remember the blue sky.

When you get in a plane and rise above the clouds, you see that incredible bright panorama of blue sky. The mind is no different; thoughts are like clouds, and although they may build up and even look stormy, the blue sky is there all along. Just remembering this is enough to help you get a little more clarity.

5.Learn how to meditate.

Regular readers maybe saw this one coming, but I would recommend starting a meditation practice by downloading the Headspace app and starting our beginner's course, Take10. It's free to download and only takes 10 minutes a day. And best of all, unlike the monastery, you get to keep your phone.

Accepting Change

When you think about it, your life is like a tapestry with many colors, directions, good and not so good living.

Finding your way may be difficult at times because you want so many things in life. You may want to fill your time with meaningful living but you  seem trapped in what you have to do to survive.Nature gives us many lessons on staying power. Standing strong like a tree you can find your way through life’s struggles.It may seem like a long time waiting for things to change for you.You may think that they are just trees, but they are living nature, swaying and moving with time.If you find that you are impatient about where your life is going, try some exercises that help with staying power.

Meditation is a good place to start. Begin with a deep, cleansing breath, and then silence, concentrating only on your breathing. When a thought comes to mind, bring yourself back to the breath.

Meditate every day for at least 15 minutes and you will find out that you are calmer, balanced and grounded to the Earth just like a tree.

Healing Way!

Finding ways to let go of some of the things in life that stress you out is the first step toward healing yourself.

how to use your mind, body and soul to free yourself from pain and illnesse

                                           ''stress is harmful''

You would think that by now we would take that advice and find ways to decrease the stress in our lives.

My favorite way of decreasing my stress is using my creativity.

It seems that when I increase the time I spend creating something, I am at peace with myself. Creating makes the time pass, and at the end, I usually have something beautiful. Not everything that I create turns to gold!!

Sometimes I struggle, but when I do, I usually put things to the side for a moment.

And say to myself, ” This is supposed to be my peaceful time.” You may have to remind yourself of creating peaceful times and how to stay in them.

Healing and Wellness!

Do you have something that really helps you to focus on healing and wellness?

If not you should begin to find some healing ways.

Using your imagination, think of something that really makes you feel well. Maybe it is just looking at some old pictures of family and friends. Or your healing ways could be practicing the piano or singing a song in your car as you drive along.

Each person has their own specific way to heal themselves. And to make a full transformation to wellness and health, you may have to develop yourself by finding personal meaning and love in the things that you do in life.

Mood Healing red rose!

Red is a very powerful color that can help you in many ways. Just looking at a rose brings a smile to my face.

The color red is the color of loving moments with that special person. Red roses signify love and giving.

But red also goes deeper into your subconscious, bringing some strength to your internal being. When I wear red, I can feel its power and strength.

Red and oranges are my power colors when I want to bring some strength into my life.

Mood and Movement Healing!

Find ways to move. Dancing and walking can help with your mood.  Change your ways to a more positive you by free spirit dancing. Just move around in random movements. I do this in my yoga class. I have students get into the flow of movement.

Walking also  helps me with my mood.

When I move my body, It instantly changes my mood to a better one.

Stressors!

"We know we can’t always avoid stressors in our life, but one thing we can do to prepare for that is to have healthy food choices in our refrigerators and cabinets so that when those stressors come up, we can reach for something healthy rather than going to a very convenient but high-fat choice,

Junk food is obviously bad and can lead to weight gain.

Biological Psychiatry shows that stress experienced prior to eating a high-fat meal lowers your rate of metabolism, making it even harder to keep the pounds off.

We know,  it is possible to change your habits.

Write yourself a letter of appreciation!

IF YOU DON'T APPRECIATE YOURSELF and your own capabilities you'll be easily pulled down by other people's negative comments.It's easy to take for granted the qualities you have.Do you say: 'Everyone can do that, can't they?' or 'Isn't everyone like that?When you receive a compliment?The next time you receive a compliment, write it down and stick it to a mirror or the fridge.

Make a difference!

THE  ATMOSPHERE  YOU  GENERATE  as a result of your thoughts and your actions influences the people around you.Think about how you can add to spirit of life rather than subtract it.You have the power to change the world around you.Don't underestimate or neglect this power.Nurture it.

Be an active Participant!

IN  LIFE  and you'll sail more easily through adversity.If you're passive and wait for things to happen to you, you're not seizing your own freedom.You always have a choice in every situation.You can choose your attitude as well as your action.

Raising energy!

WHEN  YOU'RE  DOWN,Your energy becomes scattered and depleted.Visualise a spiral of light moving from the soles of your feet to the top of your head.Breathe in energy.Alternately  place your hands on your solar plexus while you breathe into and out  from it.Leave your hands there for at least five minutes.

Sleep Better At Night!

Did you know that certain nutrients can help you sleep better at night and be more productive and energetic during your waking hours?  

Emotional issues such as stress and anxiety can prevent you from sleeping properly and can lead to insomnia. To avoid it, consider adding some delicious foods rich with these seven essential nutrients to your daily diet to fall asleep faster and sleep better at night. They work like a charm!

The ripple effect!

WHEN YOU THROW a pebble into water, ripples ruffle the surface.They spread out in ever-widening circles until they disappear and the water is still once more.Think of your difficult situation as that hard cold pebble.What are the ripples you've created around your pebble?Who beside yourself is affected by  what you've caused?Take time to reflect on the relationship between what you do and what energy you give out to others.

Clean out your wardrobe!

PASS YOUR OLD CLOTHES on to someone else.Your clothes cover and protect you.They are your interface with the world.They represent how you see yourself and what you show to others.By passing on your old clothes you make a symbolic act of change.

Heroes and heroines!

PROVIDE  MODELS  OF  BEHAVIOUR.They inspire and uplift.They represent your ideal.Find your heroes and heroines in history or books or present-day life.Read about them.Note what qualities you most admire.Pin pictures of your heroes and heroines in a prominent place.Look at them often.

Rehearsal!

WHEN A SITUATION BACKFIRES..............................you're often determined to act differently the next time.But determination will desert you in the pressure and emotion of the occasion if you haven't done some homework.Visualise yourself in the situation and act it out as if you were there.Use your five senses to bring your action alive.Practice will hasten a new pattern and improve your chances of success.

Find a trigger!

FIND YOUR OWN HAPPINESS TRIGGER.It may be the words of a song, a saying, a scene.In order for the trigger to work you need to be able to imagine it strongly.See it, feel it.Practise when you don't need to use it.The more you quickly your trigger will activate.

Replace pain with no pain!

IF YOU FIND YOURSELF .........................................................wanting to hurt someone in the same way they have hurt you, think again.
Replicating pain duplicates it.What you really seek is no pain.Stay true to your aim.As you give love more, you'll also receive more.Give love unconditionally without waiting for its immediate return.

Recognise your Limitations!

ATTEMPT ONLY WHAT IS POSSIBLE FOR YOU.Know your own capabilities, strengths and endurance.Don't try to do more out of guilt or fear or comparison.No one else can inform you about your limitations as well as yourself.So listen without judgement.

Work backwards!

RATHER THEN PROJECTING .....................your present difficult situation into the future, take your situation to its extreme and then work backwards to the present.Look at your particular circumstances. Ask yourself: ' what's the very worst that can happen?Think about what you'd do if it happened.Then when you take yourself back to the present it will be easier to face.

It could be Worse!

WHEN  YOU 'RE  DOWN, try jolting yourself out of the depths by imagining a situation worse than your own.Visualise with all your senses.Empathise.Return to your own situation.Now that you've established a sense of proportion you'll have a new outlook.You'll see that your problem is manageable.

A mistake is a gift!

DON' T  BE  TOO  PROUD  to admit when you've been wrong.A mistakes offers you an unparalleled chance to have another go, to reflect on what has been done and to do things differently next time.Your challenge is to be humble enough to see your mistake.Then you can do something about it.

Finding your path!

WHEN  DISTRESSING  THINGS  HAPPEN......................................it's as though you're in a maze and can't find the exit.Visualise this scene of many paths and one way out.Follow each path; notice what you see along the way.Who do you meet?Are there any signs?As you explore and gather information, you'll find the way out.

Walk away!

DON'T BE AFRAID TO WALK AWAY from a confrontation.You're not a coward or a shirker.
Sometimes disengagement is appropriate, particularly when emotions  are running high.
Every situation is different.It's helpful to tell the person before you leave that now is not the time to discuss the matter, that you'll talk when you've both calmed down.

Language is important!

IF YOU CAN ALWAYS SPEAK IN  'I', 'ME' and 'My' Terms in a painful situation , You'll avoid blame and abuse.By not antagonising the other person,you'll be able to prolong the communication.If you use 'I','Me' and 'MY' you'll get in touch with what you really think and feel.You'll give the other person a chance to understand where you're coming from.

Listen!

DO YOU HEAR what your 'opponent ' has to say or are you concerned with your next sentence?
If the latter is the case, you won't move from your belief in the rightness of your position.Because you don't listen, you're inclined to misinterpret.If you're too busy following the line of your own argument  you've lost you way.It won't advance you.It will only entrench you.Listen and learn.

Change your mind!

THE SIMPLEST WAY TO SOLVE A PROBLEM may be to change your mind about it.What prevents you from changing your mind?It's often pride and ego and a sense  of false loyalty or honour about the position  you've taken.Don't take yourself so seriously.Give yourself permission to change your mind.

We're all human!

WHEN YOU'RE IN CONFLICT with someone and you've both dug yourselves into intractable positions, it's useful to remember that the person you're facing is a living, breathing, at times fearful and insecure human being not a devouring monster.Don't demonise.It makes you a victim and it encourages fear.

Reconciliation!

AFTER FORGIVENESS comes reconciliation.Reconciliation means moving from a position of hostility to a state of friendship and agreement.It involves reaching out.It brings peace and harmony.It restores balance.Reconciliation provides a firm foundation so you can move on from a position of strength.

Wisdom grows from experience!

WHEN YOU'RE  IN  A  TROUGH  and can't find a way out, remember that it's usually not until you're pushed that you learn.You have the opportunity to grow from a painful experience, so don't deny or reject new experiences.Let them bring you wisdom, and make your life easier.

Yes You can, no you can't!

DO YOU BATTLE WITH YOURSELF over the things you can't do?
Can 't is often based on fear and guilt.
Can is empowering and opens your mind to possibilities.
Can requires courage.
You have the ability.
Be affirming and assertive and say: 'I can , I can,I can!'

Protection!

YOUR BEST PROTECTION  from pain and hurt is to be honest with yourself and with others.You can be honest without being brutally honest there are many ways to speak the truth.You deceive yourself when you lie in order to protect others from hurt.It's more likely you're protecting yourself from confronting something you'd rather no face.

The Heart Centre!

WHEREVER YOU EMOTIONS HAVE LED YOU,always bring your focus back to your heart, the centre of love.Meditate on your heart.Feel its beat.Breathe into and out from it and mentally repeat the words ''Love''.As you breathe you mantra feel the essence of love, of giving lovingly receiving lovingly.